Nationally, in the same time period, that number grows to more than 14,000. However, the data shows only three percent of all granted sneak-and-peek warrants were for sex crimes, compared to the 73 percent of sneak-and-peek warrants granted for drug offenses. To get permission for a "sneak and peek," detectives must try all other investigative methods first. My mother calls me a whore, can you imagine? She says anyone who handles men’s bodies like this is no better than a street girl. And she’s not the only one, you know. I’ve lost two boyfriends, and my sister hasn’t spoken to me in years.” I met one of Raine’s masseurs, Simon, at a coffee shop. A former breakdancer with an engineering degree, Simon made his way into massage after getting laid off in 2008. “I’d tried massage parlors before, and I thought, ‘Why can’t women do what men do and take ownership?’” he tells me. “The next thing I did was print up business cards.” Millennials watch most of their porn between the twitching hour of 11 p.m. and midnight, whereas old people, obviously, need that sleep to live.

A few years later, in Chicago for a design-industry conference, I saw that the fitness center in my hotel offered massage services. I could charge one to my bill and add it to my expense account. Great. I called for an appointment. The only time that worked was 6 a.m., two mornings later. “Too damn early,” I said, then reconsidered. “I’ll take it.” After having a free, 30-minute Zoom call in which Stewart led her in breathwork and explained that his bodywork “can bring up a lot of hormonal responses that can confuse us into feelings,” but that there would be no romance, Cookie booked a three-day retreat. A month later, she was on a two-hour ferry ride to Victoria to meet Stewart.

No Results

T anya, a white, 34-year-old mom, is one of the many women across the U.S. risking arrest for a happy ending. Millennials reach the promise land of orgasm one minute and five seconds sooner than older generations, who, it’s safe to say, just need some time, okay?

What made it so erotic for her, she says, is that “it was somebody just making sure I got off. And that was all they wanted. They didn’t have any other expectations. And then I didn’t have to talk to them after.” Whereas, when she hooks up with her boyfriend she has to worry about his feelings, and the experience always ends in full penetration. In the massage parlor, “there was no penis causing any discomfort, and I didn’t have to deal with condoms or birth control.” According to the recently unsealed sneak-and-peek warrants in Martin County, "video surveillance [was] the only option" to further the investigation. I don’t want any confusion in one area to compromise or define me as a massage therapist," she told them. The client said when she got home, the “severity” of what happened hit her, she believes Woodward took advantage of her.The woman nodded her head and continued to hold on whilst I tried to pull it from her grip like some bizarre game of tug o’penis. T hough our patriarchal culture likes to pretend that women don’t buy sex and men don’t sell it to them, it wasn’t difficult to find sources for this story once I figured out where to look. Finally, Sarah gave up and decided to get her hair done instead, but by this stage, I was all psyched up and really wanted my first massage. So we split up, she went to get her hair done, I continued my massage mission. I had not been able to actually come to orgasm from that type of fingering [since the assault] happened. And now, I feel like I regained that ability to come from fingering,” says Tanya. “I felt really relieved and fulfilled.”

Yet, Tanya isn’t completely sanguine about the experience. She says she “kind of feels dirty about it…because, as a woman, I’m not supposed to pay for sex. As a mother, I shouldn’t be wanting this. I wish I didn’t feel that way.” Carey told the board that if they took jurisdiction of the matter, "you are actually going to be now the massage therapy board and the cuddle therapy board." I ended up finding a little place on the third level above the salon. It was real clinical looking. Almost like a little doctor surgery. Some women want casual sex and feel safer with a negotiated service. Others want a sexpert who might better understand their needs. Each time, the men pay for the sex acts. As a result of the recording, numerous people were charged with prostitution and the spa was shut down.

More Life

Other states, like Arizona, don't regulate cuddle therapy, said Guinazzo, the co-founder of Cuddlist. The cuddle industry "is really where massage therapy was 30 years ago," in terms of regulation, she said. But she expects it's only a matter of time before professional cuddling is regulated. According to the Association of Certified Sexological Body Workers, this therapeutic method involves, “active receiving, anal touch, internal and external genital mapping, breathwork, scar tissue remediation, and orgasmic yoga coaching.” And yes, much of it involves bringing clients to orgasm. Stewart says that one of the keys to sexological bodywork is one-way touch: the therapist touches you and you don’t reciprocate. At the end of the second day, my friend Barb and I decided to treat ourselves to a massage in our hotel, a five-star beauty in the small coastal village of Postira on the island of Brac. Although there was a little bit of a language barrier when we went to the spa to book our appointments, Barb and I ended up choosing a full-body massage. So why would a woman pay for sex? Despite the stereotype that ladies can get laid whenever they want, the truth is more complicated. “Women buy sex because they want sex that they can control,” explains Caldwell. “Some women want casual sex and feel safer with a negotiated service. Others want a sexpert who might better understand their needs. Sex workers are unlikely to reject, belittle, or harass their clients, and many women who previously tried online dating prefer the convenience and consistency that commercial sex offers.”

Stewart is one of 116 licensed sexological bodyworkers worldwide. Their work straddles the lines between sex work, therapy, and massage. Dr. Caldwell says the sex-as-therapy trope helps “reduce stigma” for women because women are less likely to openly state they want sex. “A woman who told me she bought sex for therapy might tell her best friend that she bought sex because she was curious or horny,” says Caldwell, “and both of these motivations might be true.” Happy ending” massages that include being stimulated to orgasm are not usually associated with female clientele. But there are indeed women seeking out this type of service from male masseurs, and their rules of engagement might surprise you. It is the same type of warrant recently used by law enforcement agencies in Palm Beach County and the Treasure Coast to capture more than 300 ‘johns’ on camera, allegedly receiving sex acts inside local massage parlors.This all-encompassing fear steered me away from spas and rubs for years—until the inevitable happened, and I was put up in a Florida resort for a magazine sales meeting. I and the others in our group were urged to take advantage of spa facilities—the more services we signed up for, the more advertising we’d bring in. A trade-off. So, I got a facial, which was fun, then an herbal body wrap, which I hated—arms pinned so I couldn’t move; I felt claustrophobic. “It’s no good unless you fall asleep,” said the attendant. I didn’t. He unwrapped me; that was that.